Elbow: The Truth About Homosexuality

Sunday, July 15, 2007

The Truth About Homosexuality

I think homosexuality is beautiful. I feel that the need to be connected to anyone is so important that it can't be ignored. When there is a desire to be close to someone because you are motivated to have a family with them, surround yourself with their life and have them share in your heartaches and triumphs, then that is a desire that shouldn't be ignored. So why does the Church say that those desires are wrong? And not only wrong, but 'abominable' and 'wicked' if they happen to be with someone of the same sex?

When we feel sad and guilty about being gay, about having homosexual inclinations then intuitively the shameful feelings we feel are letting us know that it is not true that we have to feel guilty about our same-sex attractions. If our guilt and shame were good for us and true, then it wouldn't be painful, we would feel peace and we would have a confirmation by the spirit that it's okay to feel guilty about being gay because we would feel satisfied with the guilt we feel for having same-sex attractions.

If the negative beliefs that we feel about being gay are true, then we wouldn't be feeling negative emotions. We would feel satisfied. We would feel totally okay because we are tapping into our true identity. The reasons we feel negative emotions about being gay is because we are believing what is not true, and it is very uncomfortable to exist in a lie. The negative emotion is meant to be a warning bell ringing within us and sending a message: "Warning! What you are currently believing and thinking about your sexuality is a lie! Continue to believe and think that homosexuality is wrong and you will feel worse and worse."

Our culture and society place judgment on us for having these feelings toward other members of our same gender. We can know homosexuality is good for homosexual men and women to experience because it feels good physically, emotionally, intellectually and so on and so forth. What feels wrong are the voices from our culture and society that cause us to feel guilt or shame, but that shame doesn't come from within us, it comes from an outside perspective of trying to fit into a society that isn't forgiving of things that are different.


Blogger Dave said...

Well put, I've never thought of it like that before.

6:24 AM  
Blogger playasinmar said...

"When we feel sad and guilty about being gay... we have to feel guilty about our same-sex attractions."

And sometimes we have to become super-paranoid about totally normal displays of affection like hugging.

7:10 AM  
Blogger In the Lucha! said...

Great post! I know exactly what you are saying, it took me a long time to actually appreciate my sexuality instead of feel shame for it. Thanks for all you do.

11:16 AM  
Blogger gentlefriend said...

I have no guilt about my same gender attractions. It is the way I am wired. I have been this way as long as I remember. Our culture may feel that these attractions are an abomination. They are wrong.

I choose a different way of dealing with them than you, but I hope as brothers we can help each other shake off the cultural barnacles that say we are evil because of the unique wiring we have been given in mortality. It is just not true.

12:32 AM  
Blogger Sean said...

i very much like to say i agree with you and mirror gentlefriends thoughts on this as well.

11:03 AM  
Blogger Elbow said...


I want you to know that I honor the way you choose to deal with being gay, and I agree that as brothers we can help each other vibrate at higher frequencies and live life to the fullest. Thank you.

1:38 PM  

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